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May 15, 2006 Insights From the Dean of Peace
Notes from the Dean's Desk
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Ask the Dean?
Dean Van Leuven   Global Struggle

Dear Dean, In reference to your response to a friend that is “always late” I would like to add that the angry one might benefit from looking at the places where she/he is or has been late. I have found it often leads to compassion when we see how we have done the same thing to someone else that we are now so upset about. - Rev. John

Dear Rev. John, You are so right. When we are upset about something it is often a reflection of our own issues. We tend to live life like the sports fan. We are upset when the call goes against our team often without regard to whether the referee may have made an honest call. Learn to be more like the referee and look at the situation to make the correct call. Learn to accept it as an honest mistake if the call is wrong. - the Dean

Dear Dean, I am an avid reader. I often loan books to friends and acquaintances who frequently forget to return them. I care about my friends and want to help them, but I also care about my books. Books are like friends and I am upset when I lose them. - Avid Reader

Dear Avid Reader, Possible solutions include not lending to those who don’t return them, or simply not lending. These are probably not the best solutions as you care about your friends as well as your books. Consider making yourself a “lending library” put a card in the book with your name and the due date. Keep a record and remove those from your list who fail to make a timely return or replacement. - the Dean

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Law, Politics & Society ... As I see them
  Globe Magnify Glass

It has been fashionable of late when a politician changes his/her mind about an issue, to accuse them of flip-flopping and to call them wishy-washy in their principals. I believe this is just a tactic used by someone who supports the original decision and is resisting the change. Many are willing to resort to calling names when they don’t like what is happening.

First of all, I want politicians to be open to changing their minds if they see they have made a mistake. I don’t want them to be like an ostrich and bury their heads in the sand when they see things going wrong. I want them to be open to change when things don’t turn out as expected. They are the ones who have studied the issues and the facts. I want their best judgment at all times, not just when the decision is made.

Secondly, we elected them to make our decisions for us. I do not want my representatives to make a decision simply because it might determine whether they are reelected. Let us respect their choices until the will of the voters select someone else to replace them.

Creating a Peaceful New World
  World Peace

The most common cause of old anger is unresolved issues from our family of origin. Not only are such angers the most common, they are also the strongest and often the most deeply buried. We bury these angers because we don’t want to keep feeling the hurt, and because we need to be able to function in our family and in the world.

We learn a particular belief system from our families, but as we become adults we change at least part of that system so that some of our old beliefs no longer fit. Spend some time thinking about your family. Think about the good stuff you learned from them. Appreciate what they did for you. Then think about the things you learned from them that you no longer want to keep. The stuff that is holding you back from enjoying your life. Now create a new belief to replace each thing and release the old negative stuff.

Tips for Peaceful and Joyful Living
  Left Arrow

Monday: Today I think about all of the lessons I have learned from my mother.

Tuesday: I decide which lessons I learned from my mother I would like to keep in my life. I appreciate them.

Wednesday: I decide which beliefs I learned from my mother I want to release. I determine a new belief to take its place.

Thursday: Today I think about the lessons I have learned from my father.

Friday: I decide which lessons I learned from my father I would like to keep in my life. I appreciate them.

Saturday: I decide which beliefs I learned from my father I want to release. I determine a new belief to take its place.

Sunday: Today I rejoice in the new beliefs I have chosen for my life.

Additional Notes
 

I attended a rally for the Peace Alliance this past week. It is in support of a bill to Create a U.S. Department of Peace and Nonviolence as a Department of the United States Government. I number of our Senators and Congressmen are behind the bill. If you haven't heard about it I suggest that you go to www.thepeacealliance.org for more information.

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