Dove with Branch
June 12, 2006 Insights From the Dean of Peace
Notes from the Dean's Desk
Hello! - Dean Van Leuven

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Ask the Dean?
  Global Struggle

Dear Dean, I would like to share what happened to me after my husband noticed my books on health disappearing..... “You tell your friends that you have lost so many books that you are now charging a $5.00 deposit ---a check that you will cash in 30 days if you don't get the book back.” You will find that the borrowers will gladly give a check to you for $5.00 --but the one who doesn't return will say "What kind of a friend are You?" and not want to give a check. - RMW Veneta, OR

Dear RMW, That will work. I would however, only use this method with those who have borrowed in the past, and forgotten to return. It is a basic principle that we should always trust as much as possible. When we trust bad things can happen. When we don’t trust a bad thing is happening. You could tell them it is a method you have devised in order to help them remember. - the Dean

Dear Dean, I am a fifth grade teacher. I have problems with kids who refuse to keep quiet in class. I send them to the office. When they return to class, they still continue the same behavior. What do you suggest? - Teri

Dear Teri, You are the teacher. It is your job to get the student to realize that it is more beneficial to not be disruptive. This is best accomplished with positive lessons such as being considerate to friends, and the value of the lessons they are missing. Punishment is not an effective way to achieve positive results. - the Dean

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Law, Politics & Society ... As I see them
  Globe Magnify Glass

In order to become a peaceful society we must learn how to be peaceful. We learn this mostly through our education as we are growing up. We learn it from our parents, our teachers and others in our society. Before we can become peaceful we must learn peaceful ways of thinking. We need to give up such things as our upset because others have inconvenienced us, or want to do things differently. This comes from our education.

We spend approximately ten times the money on national defense that we spend on education. Because we have not learned peace, we spend much of our resources protecting ourselves. One answer is to spend more money on education. A better answer, I believe, is to develop and teach the concepts that will produce peace, and reduce our defense budget down to the size of our education budget.

Is this reasonable? I think so. The U.S. and its Allies spend about three times as much on defense as the rest of the world. Most of our military spending is caused because we disagree with what others are doing, not because they are attacking us. We have ample opportunity to find more peaceful solutions when we start desiring them.

Creating a Peaceful New World
  World Peace

We tend to make ourselves the victims of our own thinking. We grow up expecting certain things out of life, and when they don’t happen we feel cheated. When something bad happens we tend to say, “What did I ever do to deserve this?” We find it difficult to accept what happened, because we are tied up in our own expectations and attachments.

We put ourselves in the victim role whenever we deny that the feeling of being a victim actually originates in our own mind. If you find yourself thinking in terms of “How can I possibly cope with this situation?” You are admitting that you are a victim. Thinking about how you can just get by is victim thinking.

Instead we need to think in terms of, “I am in control here,” “I am the boss of my life.” Until you take over control of your life in every way, you are making yourself a victim. Taking control means that you are the one who makes the choices about your own life, based on your independent needs and thinking.

Column 4 - Tips for Peaceful and Joyful Living
by Dean Van Leuven - the Dean of Peace   Left Arrow

Monday: I think about the things in my life that I feel are out of my control.

Tuesday: I think about why things are out of control.

Wednesday: I think about the beliefs I have, that allow things to be out of control.

Thursday: I think about new choices I can make to take control of my life.

Friday: Today I take one thing in my life that has been out of control and bring it under control.

Saturday: Today I think about the decisions I must make, in order to take control of my life.

Sunday: I resolve that I am the boss of my life.

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